As Tina Turner once asked, “What’s love got to do with it?”
How does one know that they are in a good relationship? It’s not love, for you can love any one and you love many different people. Love is a chemical reaction. As defined, love is “an intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.” Just because someone says that they love you, doesn’t mean that they will stay with you. Just because they say “I love you” doesn’t mean they won’t break your heart in five minutes.
I don’t know if there is anything worse than breaking-up with someone you love. When you love someone you start to imagine what a future might be like with them. You integrate them into all aspects of your life and you stop thinking about what else might be out there.
They tell you they love you and then almost in the same breath they tell you that they’d be happier with someone else and try to convince you that you would be happier too. And what of love? It’s insubstantial. Love fades or grows with the lovers, it is not a constant, but ever changing. Love can leave you feeling like you can do anything, or leave you at the bottom of the pit feeling like nothing. Love is what can make a break up so difficult. Love is what leaves you feeling like you can’t eat, or like you just want to sleep your life away. It is easier to sleep away the hours than to try to believe that you can’t be with someone you love.
Love is just one component of a relationship and one that is best left until the end. It gets in the way of seeing what is really there. It makes you hold on longer than you should, makes you accept things in the other person that you never thought you would accept. It can change who you are, for better or for worse.
But in all honesty - love is what I want right now and I don't understand why I can't be with the person I love.
